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I'm Angry, Bitter And Resentful Toward My Ex Husband
have been filled with extreme anger, resentment and revenge since my divorce
(which lasted almost three years and was final in Feb.) For a few weeks after
the divorce I finally felt a wee bit of peace. Then the anger and revengeful
feelings stirred up again. I think it has to do with the fact that my ex is
going to be marrying the woman (who is very controlling and manipulative) that
he had the affair with in two weeks. I put on a happy face in front of my seven
yr. old son and yet I cannot seem to get past this. I pray asking God to remove
these feelings and to help me do His will, but they just keep occupying my head.
am assuming that your husband had an affair and you were totally faithful
throughout the marriage. I say this because there is always a price to pay
whether it is one sided or two sided. Certainly the wages of sin even by
one side is devastating and both sides feel its destructive nature several
generations deep. That doesn't even take into account friends and acquaintances.
This is a good example of how the effects of sin hit even the innocent.
back to your question! I have counseled many who are in your situation.
The first thing you must do is find forgiveness for the person who has wronged
you. This is probably the toughest thing a person can do, but you're not
doing it for your ex-husband but for yourself.
me explain. When you get angry, resentful and bitter toward another
person it only affects you and makes you a very unhappy person. It also
has a toll on your children, family and friends. Obviously, they're going
to be involved in some form or fashion.
am assuming that your ex-husband knows that you are angry and bitter toward
him. If thatís the case, you need to let him know that you forgive him.
Of course, before you do that you need to ask the Lord to help you through this
because this won't be easy.
Ideally, it would be best for your ex-husband to ask for your forgiveness, but
frankly, with all things considered, I wouldn't expect that to happen.
Ideally, it would be best for your ex-husband to ask for your forgiveness, but frankly, with all things considered, I wouldn't expect that to happen.
youíve done that, again pray and ask the Lord to lift this great weight of
anger and revenge from you. You may have to pray this everyday before you
are truly free.
pit that many fall back into is, after we have forgiven the person, we continue
to bring up damaging thoughts about the person replaying the past until we are
in the same state of anger, resentment and revenge. You must at all cost
avoid walking into Satan's trap.
your life is in the Lord's hands no matter the circumstances. He will work
things out for your good (Romans 8:28) even though you don't understand it at
course, we don't always understand why things happen and may not until we meet
the Lord in the sky. Actually, when you meet the Lord, the things
of this world will be long forgotten (Isaiah 65:17). But now
is the time to trust the Lord from this
day forward and let Him do His will.
hope this has helped you.
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